Have you ever been in a situation where you can’t stand it anymore? A situation that wore you down, and kept you from sleeping? A situation were you went in circles, without getting an inch forward and the only thing you did was cursing, blaming others or just doing nothing? I’m sure everybody was in such a situation some time or even now. When you are in such a situation, it helps if you make it clear to yourself that you always have a choice.

It doesn’t matter in what circumstances you are, you always have these three options: Take it, Change it or Leave it.

Take it

Sometimes you just have to accept it. Take it as it is and tick it off. Breathe deep and proceed. There are things in life you can’t change, and so it doesn’t make sense to invest energy in it. Instead, use this energy in other more valuable items.

Change it

So you don’t want to take it? Then change it! Stop moaning and find out how you can change the current situation. If you have an idea, invite your colleagues to a brownbagging session and discuss it with them, or think about a solution focused approach to help you with the current situation. Don’t wait for someone else to make the change, it is up to you.

Leave it

In most of the cases, this is the hardest option. But it may happen that this is the only option that comes into consideration. Does your job suck from Monday to Friday, are you grumpy all the time and your wife wants to leave you? You tried to change the situation but your boss just don’t listen? Then it is time to leave it. Now! There are plenty of other opportunities out there waiting for you, even if you don’t see them yet.

Take it, Change it or Leave it, you always have a choice!